In Your Love

Timothy Keller on “The Meaning of Marriage” at Author@Google

so good.

some points that stood out to me:

• as a single, you walk into a room and immediately eliminate 7 out of 10 singles based on how they look. and you just missed your chance of possibly finding someone who can be your best friend, which is one of the criteria for finding a great future spouse.
• true friendship doesn’t come from sexual attraction.  but sexual attraction can definitely come from true friendship.  
• “you are not the kind of wife that you were. so i don’t have to be the kind of husband that i was.”  this seems justice, but it’s actually revenge. when you look at the parental relationship, children don’t really love you back for a long time.  but you still love them because the relationship is based on the covenant.  and through loving the child without receiving, you develop this everlasting love for the child.  if we can have that kind of love for our spouse, the marriage will mirror that kind of love.
• the greatest problem of marriage is self-centeredness.  marriage doesn’t bring problems.  it simply reveals problems that were already within us.